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Brave new world

Where to start?

With details about me, about the kids I look after and will look after in the years to come?

With the answers to the questions you're undoubtedly thinking?

Can I foster? Am I too young or old? Do I have to be in a relationship? Can I be LGBT+ and foster? Do I have to own my own home?

Well, first off, understandably I wont be able to share the details of any kids in my care. Privacy is paramount. Instead I will offer tidbits and snapshots and little insights that I hope you find helpful.

About the title... well I am based in Bristol, UK, a city which I love, and whose people I adore. But, like every town and city in the UK, there are not enough foster carers. I hope that by reading this blog you may be spurred into picking up that phone and making an inquiry with your local authority, or you fill in that online form, or attend a local drop in meeting. Btw I'm not tied to any agency or authority, this is my own brainwave.

The first step, as they say, if often the most important.

Just like this blog. It's set up, I'm full of ideas, stories, tales and more that I want to share with you.

I'll be aiming for one to two posts per week. Around Sunday/Monday and around Wednesday/Thursday. Put it in your diary.

But first, let me introduce myself.

I am a foster carer in the Bristol area and I currently look after 1-2 children at a time, aged 5+, thought I tend to have teenagers. I wanted to foster carer for a number of years before I finally picked up the courage to make first contact (yes, that was a Star Trek reference, because fostering can seem like entering a whole new world). I wish I'd done it sooner, but my personal situation meant that I had to ensure I was 'ready'. Mentally, physically, emotionally and financially.

Well now, that's a lil about me.

So what am I going to talk about... I want this blog to help people make informed decisions about fostering, and so the very first posts will be about the application and approval process, who can foster, and what kind of person you need to be, allowances and discounts and more.

If there is anything you would like to ask me or for me to write a post about, leave a comment and I'll get back to you as soon as I can.


Bristol Fostering x.



NB Bristol Fostering is a personal blog and not affiliated with any fostering agency. The author just happens to live in Bristol, UK

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